Wednesday, October 10, 2012

Where is my perfect wedding dress?!




Per-fect [adj., n. Pur-fikt; v. Per-fekt] – (meaning - adjective) Conforming absolutely to the description of an ideal type: a perfect sphere; a perfect gentleman.

When I set off looking for a lehenga to drape myself in on the big day, I knew that the search would not be simple. With a million specifications on my mind, I readied myself for several days of scrounging. My thoughts were validated when 4 full days were spent roaming the streets of Delhi, with my mom and grandmom, rejecting one dress after another. A conservative estimate of the number of lehengas that I rejected in this period must be over 150. No, I am not kidding or exaggerating. I just could not find the ‘perfect’ dress.

The hunt for the white tiger (red in my case, and it was as rare as one) began with me checking out lighter versions of the lehenga thinking they would suit me well. Just on Day 1, I even settled for a simple red one that looked plain and elegant. But upon the suggestions given by my folks, I didn’t finalize it right then and decided to look more before making up my mind. Brain trap. Once I got home, plain Jane was replaced by Julia Roberts. First stop, Facebook. To check out what my friends had worn on their big days. Second step, calls. I called all of those friends and enquired about where they did their shopping. Third step, physical inspection. Physically visiting all the suggested showrooms and checking out the competition. End result – unimpressed.

Turns out as you inflate your permissible budget, the more superior the lehengas start looking. Practical pundits said don’t spend too much on it cause most girls don’t end up wearing their wedding lehenga more than once. I promised then that I would wear it as many times as the number of thousands in its amount. Example: if it costs 20k, I’d wear it at least 20 times. My mother knowingly sniggered. I don’t think she believed me even for a second.

Designers aren’t my thing.  Niche clothes are for the nouveau-riche and not for me. Nor do I want to be unconventionally different on stage. Specially when convention finds acceptability and can still make pretty brides look 10 times prettier if dressed properly. My choice – an apple red lehenga. No less and certainly no more.

An interesting trend in bridal lehenga retailing is making you stand on a raised platform in front of a full-length mirror and draping you in the dress you like. A smart marketing move is to allow you to admire yourself vainly and endlessly in the mirror, while the shopkeeper piles heaps of praises on you from behind. You are invariably forced to gloat in megalomania. My mom and grandmom spoilt me more by adding personal and very touching compliments of their own. One shopkeeper who was trying to sell us a big consignment even went on to say that I looked great in everything and hence I should buy everything that I tried! Flattered and touché, oh amen man.

After several rounds of playing the mannequin and obsessing over pictures that my mother clicked of me in these clothes (some secretly and some openly) to assess what suited me more, the breakthrough happened on Day 4. I found the ‘one’ that appealed to me at the first glance. From where? Well that’s a secret. If you are invited to my wedding, you will find out soon enough. Price? Enough for me to not be able to keep my ‘I’ll wear it as many times as the grands that it costs’ promise. Colour? Well now that was a problem. Maroon and green is what was shown to me and that is what I liked. But I originally just wanted a red lehenga. Decision? To get it made it red. Time? One month from the day of placing the order L

Yes, I continue to endure as my lehenga  gets sewed/stitched/whatever-they-do somewhere in Delhi.  I wait and keep my fingers crossed that the colour change doesn't make the end-product look odd. The design? Non-complicated but still sufficiently heavy. Net, zircon, brocade, embroidery, et al. Will make for better pictures. But can I see my baby? Not yet L The wait continues.

Sunday, October 7, 2012

Race for the best (fitting) clothes! – Part 2



And so we landed in Delhi! The plan was to get all the shopping done in 10 days before the ‘inauspicious’ period of the shraads began. But not once did it strike me that wedding shopping can be so darn onerous! The quest started in Chandni Chowk – which turned out to be a very encouraging experience – because the place is stocked up with stunning, well-priced wedding clothes! By the end of Day 1, I was 5 sarees and 5 suits richer! All very gaudy and shimmery, all appealing to the hidden bridal-side in me! I was ecstatic, but my wallet was about Rs 50,000 bucks lighter. Still I thought, great steals!

Day 2 was spent in South Delhi’s Vasant Kunj. Important marriage market showrooms like Meena Bazar were sifted through. What a colossal waste of time. They had no bridal clothes! At best, I liked a lehenga worth Rs 35,000 which had a sexy blouse and fish-cut tunic, but the only available colour was green and black grape. I couldn’t think of a function to wear it on and hence was forced to ditch it. Awesome golden sarees were all in the Rs 40,000+ range, but I was out for some smart shopping. Not random splurging.

The next day was spent in Connaught Place. The famous Greenways showroom was a disappointment. The illustrious Nalli was full of southie sarees. Not my taste and certainly not wedding flavour. I was dejected and lost. The only solace felt hidden deep within Delhi 6.

So on Day 4, I was back in Chandni Chowk. Now the interesting thing about this market is that if you look carefully, you can actually dig out gold! My family knows the people who matter in this market and I was ultimately offered unbelievable deals and great scoops! My shopping bag was full again... and I had with me to flaunt a whole new array of wedding suits and sarees, loaded to the brim with heavy zircon, laces, nets, designs and what only looked like shining, enticing stars to my hungry eyes!

Another post shall talk about the post-buying treatment given to the sarees :) 

Saturday, October 6, 2012

Race for the best (fitting) clothes! – Part 1

Soon after the wedding date was confirmed, my scramble to garner the best clothes (at the best prices) began! In India when a girl gets married, she is packed off with dahej. An assorted of Indian suits, sarees, sandals and all things shiny – bundled up in a few suitcases... that are shoved at the back of the flower-decorated car that takes you to your husband’s house after the wedding ceremony. While my idea of wedding shopping was oodles of western clothes for the honeymoon, my parents had different plans altogether.

The shopping started in Jaipur, with me checking out popular saree showrooms like Zari, Nikhaar and Pratapsons (all renowned names here). The prices for simple things like basic non-embellished sarees were pecked at Rs 6,000-10,000. My brain obviously went through the roof and I decided to continue looking. I clearly remember that at Zari, my eyes fell upon this gorgeous wedding lehenga that turned out to be worth Rs 2 lakh! Now we are average middle-class people, and even if we take pride in calling ourselves the upper-strata or the controversial ‘creamy layer’, the lehenga was way beyond my budget. I threw worried glances in my mother’s direction and she assured me that this was just us scratching the surface, and there was a lot more to be explored. I felt vaguely reassured. (Why spend this kind of money on lehengas when it can afford me a trip to the Maldives! Or maybe even Hawaii!) Jaipur was a disappointment in terms of wedding shopping. The collection was abysmal and the charges were prohibitively high. I finally understood why some friends had shopped from all cities around India, instead of investing all energy (and money) in Jaipur. Next stop – Delhi.

And it begins...

So I am getting married! And upon the suggestion of a close friend, I have decided to document this journey in a blog. What is in this for you? Well if you are a bride-to-be, or a potential bride (a loaded term), then you will find a companion in this blog through the tumultuous journey that will end with you walking down the aisle (or doing pheras around the agni, as the case may be). The blog will document my fight for clothes, finding the perfect wedding ring, attempts to manage conservative Indian families and the ultimate race to the finish, et al. It will be a documentation of all that needs to be done and shall be spruced up with suggestion on how to keep your head sane and your heart in the right place.

It will be fun, informative, sometimes emotional (a bride-to-be’s mood is sometimes as fragile as a pregnant woman’s) and mostly light-hearted. So strap back, brace yourself and enjoy the mostly sweet, but sometimes bitter, journey to the wedding day. The journey of a lifetime, that is sure to transport you into another world (literally)!

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